Or Not....

If there is one thing I can always count on my mother-in-law for it's last minute changes. All day today I was thinking about how busy this weekend was going to be and what the hell was going to happen at my mother-in-law's place. Part of the reason she had contacted us in the first place is because she said there was a lot of "drama" on her husband's side. Never mind that woman creates drama one way or another.

Anyway, I had been thinking about it all day. I was hoping it was going to go well. I had prepared myself as best I could. I figured that Master was doing the same. We both always have to kind of prepare ourselves for dealing with her. Mainly because we never know which way it's going to go or how many times it'll change while we're there.

But then I get home from work and I told Master about my day. He told me how His day went and then in a very nonchalant manner told me that I didn't have to worry about going to His mother's tomorrow.

Um... okay?

Apparently shortly before I got home she sent Him an e-mail to let Him know that she can't have us down tomorrow. Her husband was sent out of state for his job very suddenly and so she cancelled the plans with us. She wanted the whole experience basically. The four of us. But since he won't be there she cancelled everything. It's a good thing though. Her husband acts as kind of a buffer. He's a nice guy. And he does get sent off for work at the drop of a hat a lot. Master used to work at the same place and it happened constantly.

So now it's just Master and I tomorrow. Then on Sunday my dad will come up, as long as his back allows it.

Pause

I love getting together with my family. I love getting together with Master's father's side of the family. His mother? Well, neither of us want to deal with her. But we have to. Remember how last week we were supposed to go to her house for dinner? Well she had cancelled saying something along the lines of saying that it was because I hadn't felt well the night before.

She had told Master to call her the upcoming Wednesday so they could set something up for the following weekend. Basically, she wanted Master to call her today to set something up for this weekend instead. When all that was going on we had completely forgotten that my dad had told us he wanted to come up this weekend to go to Halloween stores with us. He had also told me to call him Wednesday. (Today.)

So yeah. It's kind of a cluster fuck.

I knew that it was coming up and that today was Wednesday. I thought about it this morning when I got up to go to work. I made a mental note to call my dad when I got home from work. But after work I had a couple of errands to run and work had been hectic so it completely slipped my mind.

When I got home from work it didn't cross my mind once. I got relaxed and comfortable. Master and I shot the shit while He cooked dinner. We had literally just sat down and started watching Netflix when Master quickly paused it and said, "Oh shit.. You have to call your dad."

Fuck. So I grabbed the phone and called. He didn't answer so I left a voice mail. Since he didn't answer Master hopped online and shot her an e-mail to let her know that we're kind of just waiting on my dad before making any final decisions.

So we're kind of on pause right now. It honestly wouldn't bother me at all if it was just my dad we were trying to make plans with. My dad has always been one of a whenever type of guy. And I'm more than used to it. But it's now putting the shit with my mother-in-law on hold.

My dad hasn't called back. He might be just trying to relax or is sleeping. I know his back has been pretty bad lately. I haven't tried him again because I know he'll call me back when he can/wants to.

I don't really mind that the shit with His mother is on hold. Neither of us want to see her. But at the same time I know Master wants to get it done and over with. I guess we'll just have to wait and see. I'll try my dad again tomorrow if I don't hear back from him tonight.

Family

As I had posted this past Friday, typically I do not like doing things on Sundays simply because it's the day before I have to go to work. But when it's family I'm much more willing to go and/or give in. I try my best to make it for Fridays and Saturdays but it doesn't always work that way. There have been times where either my dad, my mother, or my brother only had Sunday available and I've gone ahead and the visit was always fun.

Today we went down to see His brother. Originally, on Friday, I was a little disappointed about it simply because it was on a Sunday. But I didn't really bitch or anything like that. I really have a good time with His dad's side of the family.

And today was no different. It ended up being the two of us, His brother, his brother's wife, their three kids, His sister and a friend of His brother. It was a cook out and hanging out basically. The men went off and did man stuff and the girls stayed inside and dealt with the kids. That is kind of new to me honestly.

At His mother's if it came time for guys to go off and do guy stuff, I'd follow Master like a lost puppy. I didn't want to be alone with His mother. I never do.

But when it comes to His sister and His brother's wife I am completely comfortable.

It didn't stay that way the entire time. The men went off to cook the food on the grill. Then we were all eating in the living room and talking. And at some point His brother mentioned that he needed to get some branches off of a tree in his front yard so the men went off to do that while I stayed inside with the girls.

It never felt uncomfortable. It was actually a really good time. I truly feel perfectly comfortable around all of them. They are my family. They are my in-laws but I don't treat them any differently then I do my own family. Or at least I don't think I do. I don't feel like I do.

Unlike His mother where I say in-law like it's a bad thing.

We were there for a solid three and a half hours. By that point we needed to get home to take care of the dog and they needed to get their little ones settled in for the night. They are only 4 years old, 20 months old and 2 months old.

I hope we can see them again soon.

Nose Dive

I finally have an excuse to use this icon! Okay, it's not actually a good thing. But still.... it's kinda funny.

Today started off well enough. We relaxed and had a good day. We did some minor bumming around and sat outside for a while. So yeah, it was a pretty good day. Until about 9:30pm tonight. And that, ladies and gentlemen, is when the day took a very violent and unexpected nose dive. Anyone want to guess what caused it? Anyone? Hmmm? Bueller? ... Okay fine, I'll tell you. Geeze. Y'all give up too easily.

It was His mother. Honestly, most of the time if shit nose dives around here, it's because of His mother.

Anyway, we have had plans to go out to brunch with His mother for His birthday for about a week to a week and a half now. Honestly, neither of us really wanted to go because we didn't want to deal with her, but we agreed to the plan. A day later it turned into "Yes it's still about your birthday.. but... if you could say happy father's day to my husband that would mean a lot because x, y,z."

Um. Okay? So then it was a celebration of Master's birthday and father's day for her husband. (Her husband does have children but they live in a different state.) It was still supposed to mainly be about Master's birthday though. So okay, fine, whatever.

Tonight.. well.. she basically tried to make Master's birthday as being only a minor fraction of why we were going out to brunch with them.

Apparently, all last minute and shit, one of her husband's kids and said kid's wife were coming down to surprise him and they would be joining us also as they were still going to be in town. Now, part of the reason I don't buy this "last minute" shit is because no one decides to go out of state at the last minute and just let the people they will be staying with know only a day in advance. That shit just doesn't happen unless it's some kind of emergency. So, I think she knew most of this time and was just holding it back before telling us until she thought we had no time or room to back out. Also, she said they wouldn't be getting in until Friday and then surprising her husband at his job. Um, bitch.. it is Friday. Nice try though.

When we first saw the message I gave Master a big hug. What kind of mother, and I use the term loosely, puts their own child's birthday behind everything else and expect him to just accept it and still show up and bite his tongue. Fuck you lady. I know Master is a grown ass man, but still.. a mother shouldn't do that. Ever.

After the long hug I asked Master not to write her back right away and to just think before responding. Why? It sure in the hell wasn't because I didn't want Him going off on her. I just didn't want Him to have the knee jerk reaction of just saying fine to shut her the fuck up. He has done that, and this time I just wanted Him to take a step back and think about it for a moment.

I went off to take my shower and when I was done we talked about it. And He decided to cancel the plans with her. We shouldn't have to end our weekend on that sour note simply because we want to shut her up and He sure in the hell shouldn't have to deal with that the day before His birthday.

Master, I must say, politely declined and said we should just reschedule. Could that whore let it go? Nope. She had to throw herself on the cross and become the martyr she loves being in order to get her way. Master wasn't having it. He didn't lay into her or anything. He didn't even really bring up the whole, "You're the one putting my birthday on the back burner," thing. He just simply said that he doesn't want to deal with the wife of her husband's son. Which is also true. She is the one that was flirting with Him at this past Thanksgiving and giving me dagger eyes when she wasn't too busy ignoring me completely. He also brought up a few other key points about that particular individual.

They had a couple of messages back and forth like that. But when it was clearly obvious, even to her, that Master had put His foot down about it she still had to have the last word... and I quote... "I'm sorry you feel that way."

So now we have the whole weekend to ourselves and don't have to worry about dealing with any of it.

We have recovered from said nose dive though. We're not all pissy and shit. We've actually been talking about it and laughing. But at that moment it was a nose dive. I feel like we finally won one with her. And I wish I didn't feel that way. I wish I didn't have to feel that way. But the fact is that it's true. Stupid cunt.

Cook Out

This Saturday we are going down to visit Master's family. Well, His dad's side of the family anyway. They are a rather large group. Larger than we are used to anyway. It will be our first time down at His brother's house. So we're kind of nervous and excited about it. Why? Well, it seems that we are taking bigger and bigger steps with that side of the family, which is a great thing!

We've been invited our to lunch and dinner for a couple of years now. And then beginning last November we have been invited to more family functions. Birthdays and such and now a cook out. I think it's wonderful.

So, in order of age, aside from myself this is who will be there:

Master's dad
Master
Master's half-brother
Half-brother's wife
Master's half-sister #1
Master's half-sister #2
Master's half-sister #3
Master's niece
Master's nephew

We aren't too sure whether or not His dad's wife will be there or not. She does not like Master at all and so she tries not to be around us as much as possible. I'm pretty sure that my father-in-law's second wife will be there. She is the mother of half-brother and half-sister #1. And she's awesome! I really like her. My father-in-law's third and current wife is the mother of half-sister #2 and #3. Master's mom is never invited to such functions and never will be.

Although I will say that if we ever have an anniversary party or something along those lines where the whole family, His and mine, are invited it'll be really interesting to see how His mom reacts. I personally think it'll be hilarious. My brother has already met my father-in-law, my brother-in-law and the nephew. They got along great.

I'm excited because this is a big step. And all this means is that our relationship, and more importantly Master's relationship with that side of the family is growing stronger. That makes me extremely happy. And you can just tell that Master's dad is as pleased as punch that all of his children are getting along and getting to know one another better.

We have been messaging back and forth with all of those people to try and figure all of this out. Well today we finally decided who is bringing what. At first they said we didn't have to bring anything at all. I'm sure in the hell not about to go to their house for the first time for a cook out and not bring anything at all. So we offered to bring chips. It's simple but it's a cook out damn it. Plus, they had all the meats and what not covered.

I'm really looking forward to this.

Family Fun

Today Master and I got up rather early for us on a Saturday. Master pretty much just jumped in the shower and as soon as He was done we were out the door. We were only 10 minutes late and that was due to traffic.

The beginning of the party was at a kid's arcade. So it was busy. Master and His brother ended up challenging each other to a racing game, which was hilarious. It was a good time and the birthday girl loved all of her presents. In fact she started reading the book we got her as soon as she opened it. *laughs* It was cute.

We were there for about two hours. Then a smaller group of us, which wasn't actually small at all and it never is with that side of the family, went out to lunch.

We all sat around and talked, joked around, and ate. It's amazing to me how different it is when we see that side of His family now versus when we first starting talking to them again. Everyone is completely relaxed with one another and it feels more like when we go down to see my family. Everyone is chill. There is no real tension at all.

We were there for another two hours before we all headed out, hugged goodbye and got in our cars.

I have to say that His niece and nephew are great kids. I'm sure the one on the way will be as well. I can't say that I'm totally attached to them yet but I have a small spot for them. Especially the boy. He's an awesome little dude. I actually got a little cuddle from him today.

On the way home we talked about the visit and when we got home we talked about it a little more in depth. My father-in-law's current wife was there. She basically refuses to acknowledge we exist when we're around. Master and her got into it verbally a little about 20 years ago, before He stopped talking to that side of the family. And she has held that grudge for 20 fucking years. Everyone else in the family, the ones who have a right to hold a grudge, have wiped the slate clean and welcome Him with open arms. This bitch.. nope.

And Master's eldest sister commented on it today.

She said that she needs to knock her shit off and that He's family whether she likes it or not. And then she looked at me and said, "And it's really fucking rude that she doesn't even act like you exist because you didn't even know us back then!"

I wasn't sure how to respond so I said, "Well, 20 years ago I would have been 10 so yeah..." She laughed.

But aside from her acting like we're invisible everyone had a great time. We are becoming closer with His father's side of the family and I'm enjoying it. It's really nice to have a set of in-laws that genuinely like me and I like them and we can chill and relax. Master has that with both my mother and my dad, more so my dad though. I didn't have that until He started talking to His dad again. It's been about three or four years now but in the past year it's all definitely kicked up a notch.

They want us to be more a part of the family and we are more than happy to step up to that. Before we were still trying to test the waters and everyone was getting used to everyone else. Now? We're all chilled out and have a good time.

I'm loving it.

Taking Bribes

Master got an interesting e-mail last night. Not that long ago His mother had asked us to come down for a visit. We didn't really want to go so we used gas prices as an excuse basically.

Well, now she wants us to help her with something. (Nothing unusual there.) She sent Him an e-mail basically stating that she wants to repaint her living room and dining room and she wants us to help. We helped the first time. That was years ago. Master, my mother-in-law's husband and I painted both rooms while she was at work. It doesn't take long as her condo isn't all that big. Plus, I love painting. I really do.

Anyway, I guess she is sick of the colors. How surprising. I remember the first time we painted, she had picked out the colors but when she got home you could tell she didn't care for how it turned out. Not because of the job we had done but because she didn't like the how the colors turned out looking on her walls.

So why was this e-mail so interesting? She is bribing us. I think she caught onto the fact that we have gotten sick of helping them do shit and getting nothing in return in regards to favors. I know that probably sounds bad but we have done a lot of favors for her and have received none back.

What's the bribe? Well, if we help her paint we'll get $100 and two living room chairs. I know exactly what chairs too. Like I said, she has a small living room. She has a couch and two recliners. She is probably giving us those two recliners, which I can't bitch about. They are nice chairs. Whenever she decides to redecorate the furniture changes too. That's how we got the couch we currently have. We got the couch for painting the place the first time.

She doesn't like returning favors, so she bribes us instead. Not often. This is the second bribe we have received.

Master accepted the bribe and told her that either this upcoming Saturday or Sunday would be best for us. She responded stating that it would most likely be Saturday but she'll let us know for sure. We have no idea what time but it'll probably be early.

Protect Yourself

Apparently there are some very creepy things going on over at my sister-in-law's house. My Husband's brother works a good half hour from home. I know that doesn't seem like a long time but they have two very young children. One is three and the other is almost a year old and they don't live in a really great part of town. It's not the ghetto or anything like that, it's just a little.... shifty.

The past few weeks some really creepy shit has been happening while my brother-in-law is at work. Just the other day she was sitting at home with their two little ones and some guy was sitting outside their place in his van for an extended period of time. She thought it odd but didn't really think too much of it. She had gone outside to get something, I think it was the mail, and suddenly this guy starts yelling at her and asking about some guy she doesn't know. She ran back in and locked the door and this dude was pounding on the door almost the minute she shut it. She called the cops and then her husband (my brother-in-law). The guy was gone before either of them got there.

Now he is really pushing for her to get her concealed carry license. He recently got his and has been trying to convince her that she should get one too. Why? Because you don't know when bad shit is going to happen. He wants her to be able to protect herself if he isn't there as well as their children. I don't blame him. It's one of those things that you hope you never have to use but if you do need to, at least you are able to do so.

I personally also want a concealed carry license. Master wants one too and wants me to get one. It is a really recent thing in this state. It just got passed this year that we can have one. The only problem is that when I try to look up the information on the internet there is a lot of places offering the classes but they are way out of the way. I want something closer to home. I also don't really know how much they cost, the class I mean. I also don't know the fee for applying for one.

I do not own a weapon but I want the license so that when I do decide to get one I already have the paperwork side of things covered.

When I heard all this crazy shit going on at their house though it brought it back to the forefront of my mind. It had been placed way back there for a while because there is just so much other shit going on right now. So I sent an e-mail to my brother-in-law to try and get some facts on all of this. I figure that since he already has his, he'll be able to tell me more about it. 

In-Laws

Today we met up with all of Master's siblings, His dad and His dad's wife. There were 11 of us total. There is my father-in-law, his wife, His brother, His brother's wife and two kids, His three sisters and then of course us. We all met up at a resturant and had dinner together. There was a lot of talking and everyone was having a great time. Well, everyone except my father-in-law's wife.

When Master was 18 He got into a verbal argument with His dad's wife. And she has held it as a grudge this entire time. Master came back in contact with that side of His family about 3 years ago. He had dropped all contact with them for over a decade. He stepped back in and everyone has had open arms.

Well, like I said He had that argument with His dad's wife when He was 18. He is 37 years old now. So basically round it up to 20 years and she still can't stand the sight of Him. She is upset that He is back in the picture and doesn't like it one bit.

Apparently she didn't even know we were going to be there. His dad said "all the kids" and left it at that. Apparently she didn't think that included the eldest of the 5 kids. When she first walked in she was saying something and then she saw Master. She immediately shut up, sat down and didn't say another word the entire time. We were there for two hours and she didn't say a fucking word.

No one let it bother them, including His dad and the two children he has with his wife. Everyone else was having a great time.

Before we all left though His dad wanted a picture taken of everyone. First he wanted a picture of just him and his five children. It's the first picture of the six of them together, ever. Master didn't even know He had two younger sisters. He didn't know because He hadn't been talking to that side of the family. So when He jumped back in about 3 years ago He found out. When the picture was taken His dad's face just lit up. He was so happy to have all five children in the same place, at the same time, and actually have a picture of it.

After that picture was taken myself, my brother-in-law's wife and their two children also joined the picture. It felt good to be included. My father-in-law's wife refused to be in any of the pictures. So you know what my father-in-law did? He made her take the pictures. HA!

We have also been invited down to His brother's house before winter hits so we can all get together again and have a family cookout.

It was a great time and I'm really glad we were able together with everyone.

Fun Fun Fun

Today Master and I just basically sat around killing time before we had to go down to His mother's.

Although we killed the time in a fun way. We fucked. It was amazing as always. After that I took a shower. We watched some TV on Netflix and then headed out.

As always it wasn't really about Master. It was about His mom. Everything that is wrong in her life... blah blah blah.

Master and my mother-in-law's husband went outside to grill and while they were out there she was telling me how she loves that her husband cooks... and then proceeded to tell me how he does everything wrong when he cooks. Whiskey Tango Foxtrot.

I swear every time I see her she's more bitchy and more woe is me than the last time.

We only stayed a couple of hours and then headed home.

Unfortunately on the way home my stomach started to let me know that it didn't like me. I just wanted to get home even though Master offered to pull over at a gas station. So He hurried home, dropped me off at the sidewalk and went to park the car.

Ugh.....

Not good.

I think it was the brat I ate and the fact that I had drank Coke. First, the brat was a beer brat. I didn't know that until after I ate it. I couldn't really taste it because the brat was burnt. I hate beer and beer hates me. Even if it's just something that was soaked in beer. Then I drank that Coke. I drink Mountain Dew. I used to drink Coke and switched to Mountain Dew when the Coke started tasting different. Well, apparently I can't drink Coke at all anymore.

I feel better now. But still.

The day started off wonderfully. Down time with my Master. A great fuck. A nice drive. Then it went down hill from there.

Oh well. I'm not going to let it ruin my night. After all I'm feeling a little better.

Monster-In-Law

It only takes one small thing sometimes to completely ruin and evening.

When I got home from work we popped our heads outside to go sit around and talk with our neighbors. We had a great time. The conversations were all over the place and we couldn't stop laughing. It helped me relax, which I needed.

Time flew by and before I knew it, it was almost 9pm.We still hadn't had dinner so I excused myself and told Master that I would make a Taco Bell run. It took a little longer than I expected. Apparently at 9pm everyone and their mom wants Taco Bell.

When I got home Master was still sitting outside. He heard me lock the car so He came in with me. Since it was already a little after 9pm I took the dog out and Master took care of the bunnies. While I was outside Master had hopped on the computer and checked His e-mail. And that was apparently not a good thing.

His mother has been trying to set up a visit for us to come down to her place. Lately rather than calling she'll send Him an e-mail. Master's birthday is on Sunday and she wanted to get together then. We already loathe going over there because we're never sure which way it's going to go. It could be okay... or it could be hell.

Master didn't want to deal with her on His actual birthday so He delayed it to next weekend. I think that is what flipped her bitch switch. Everything has to be on her terms. Everything. If she doesn't get her way for whatever reason she starts her little pokes and prods and just keeps going and going.

But she tries to pull it off so it seems like she's not poking the bear so to speak. It doesn't work. We see right through her bullshit. And no, we're not reading between the lines trying to find some flaw in what she said/wrote. We just know how she is. Always a back handed compliment or she'll just talk down to Him and then when we try to call her on it she'll say she's just trying to help and she has no idea why we took it that way.

Um, because it's fucking apparent.

That's all it took. That one last poke and that put both Master and I in a bad mood. Master more so. She's been doing this to Him all His life and I've only been putting up with it since I've been with Master. It's still enough to make me want to cuss her out and bitch slap her. I want to just walk up to her and tell her how horrible of a person she can be and she can't treat myself or Master that way. She has no right... you get the picture.

But the minute we start going that route she'll look at us point blank and say, "I never said that."

She'll then get upset and go the "I can't believe you thought I would say something like that!" And then comes the pity party. She's always the victim don't ya know. She is never ever wrong in her eyes. Oh, and I imagine that would include the time where right before we got married she sent Him an e-mail telling Him to "be careful" because I'm eight years younger than Him and I might just up and leave one day because of the age difference.

Right....

I told Master that I have half a mind to just write her myself and tell her we're not coming at all. But I know we'll never hear the end of it and we'll be the bad guys, once again.

We don't cut her out of our lives because.... well.... we just don't. I know Master has wanted to. But that's His mom. It doesn't help that sometimes we can actually have a semi-good time when we're down there. Mainly that has to do with her husband though. I have a feeling one day she is just going to go that extra mile and Master is going to verbally curb stomp her ass and that'll be the end of it.

Brothers

Last night we went out to dinner with Master's half brother. He is the only child His mother had but His father has a total of 5 children. Why? Because apparently he is insane. Five kids. Holy shit. He has two sons (Master and His brother) which were the first two out of the five. The remaining three are all girls. But anyway...

We had made the plans to meet up with Master's brother and his wife a while back and finally it was time. We had only met up with them once before. Master hadn't seen His brother in about 14 years before we met them for the first time. There is a lot of history of His mother whispering in His ear about how horrible His father is and all the other kids blah blah blah blah blah. Yes, she's a manipulative bitch on wheels. Well about two years ago Master got back in contact with His father. And through that link up He got in contact with His baby brother. Also, He found out He has two sisters that He didn't even know existed because they were born after He stopped talking to that side of His family. It came as quite a shock to Him.

So back to the dinner thing. They came up by us and we hit Applebees for dinner. They had left their little one with a babysitter this time. Everthing was more relaxed. Not that it was extremely tense the first time, but the whole sizing each other up thing was done and over with. With that done and over with it was like they had never stopped talking to each other. What amazes me with Master getting in contact with His father's side of the family is that everyone is welcoming us with open arms and a smile on their face. There is no bad blood. They all understand that Master's mother fed Him a lot of bullshit and He had a lot of other things going on. It's all very hard to explain via a blog post but trust me.. there was a lot going on.

You would think there would be some caution or some "if looks could kill" type moments. But no. Not from anyone. Like I said there was a sizing each other up moment but it wasn't a fuck you type thing. It was a "lets see how this long lost family member actually is" type moments.

We all had a great time at dinner. There were a lot of jokes thrown around, a lot of laughs and a lot of smiles. It was wonderful. Everything with that side of His family is so... laid back. We don't have to dodge and weave or take small barbs at the other person in a fucked up form of self defense like we do with His mother.

But even Master's father said that I fit in with their side of the family. *grins* So now Master can't get rid of me because that side of the family loves me. *laughs*

We were at dinner for about 3 1/2 hours. It felt like an hour. We agreed to meet up again soon. They are having a barbeque at there place sometime this summer and want us to go. We said we would love to go and to just let us know what they want us to bring. I'm so glad that Master is reconnecting with that side of His family. He may have missed a lot of years with them but now? Now, it's like He never left.

Another In-Law

Up until today I had met my mother-in-law, my father-in-law, and my three sister-in-laws.

Just so we get all of this straight my Husband is the only child of His mother. Then there is my father-in-law who has five children (including Master) over the course of three marriages.

Master had not been on speaking terms on His father's side of the family for about 15 years. It has only been in the past year that He got back in contact with His father. The reasons for the long "break" are multiple and complicated. And really there is no use in getting into them here.

Today however I got to meet my brother-in-law, his wife and their 2 year old daughter. We met them at a restaurant. It was at first a little awkward as Master and His brother looked at each other and "sized each other up". But shortly after that everything became relaxed. All of the past hurts and confusion quickly became water under the bridge. They were catching up and we were all having a great time. It was when Master saw their child that it really hit Him that He is an uncle. She is a cute kid. She soon became curious about Master and myself. It didn't take long before she became comfortable with both of us. She gave Master high-fives and she said "up" while standing next to me.

I picked her up and let her sit in my lap and play with my hands. This made my brother-in-law and his wife smile. She did this again while we were all eating because she had finished her food and didn't want to be in her high chair any longer. So I stopped eating and let her sit in my lap again. They told her to come sit by them again because I had been eating. I said that it was alright and let her stay. I know that parents don't really get a chance to eat at restaurants when their child is with them because the child is constantly demanding their attention. Also I wanted them to be able to talk freely with Master and catch up. So I was more than happy to entertain my niece-in-law.

The conversations flowed freely and was so comfortable that it was honestly hard to believe that they hadn't seen each other in so long. Every one had a good time and before we knew it they invited us to their house in the near future to a cook out. His brother's exact words were "We can grill out and have a couple of beers together."

We spent a little over two hours there. On the way home and since that point Master has been in a very good mood. It makes me happy to see how much this is effecting Him in a very positive way. I am glad that He has gotten back in contact with that side of His family. His mother is becoming more and more a pain in the ass and just someone who if she wasn't His mother we would not associate with on any level. Mean while His father's side of the family, the side that has had a lot of old grudges over the years, have been welcoming us both with open arms. The grudges forgotten almost immediately. They all just want Him to be a part of their lives again. And there for, by being His wife, myself. They come at it with the attitude that life is too short, they are family and the past is the past. Now and the future is what matters.

It is heart warming and such a drastic, and welcome, change from His mother.

Work & Family

First the work portion of this post.

Today sucked. It was the Friday I was supposed to be able to leave at noon. But I couldn't because I had a lot of work to catch up on and I didn't want to come in on Monday to all of it on top of my new weekly case load. So I stayed. I was getting a ride from MV and BV when they were done. They don't leave until 5pm.

So I busted my ass all day today. The good thing is that I am caught up. Yay! It was actually gratifying in it's own way being able to get caught up just because I was there for another four hours. (I did take a lunch.) It also helped that I was in a low-key form of a manic phase. Even in a low-key version of such I get hyper, I become extremely productive and my mind bounces around like it's a super bouncy ball.

I ended up clocking out at 4:35pm. I had run out of work and I'm not the type of employee to pad my hours. I don't need to get in trouble simply because I wanted a little bit more on my paycheck. It's not worth it. So I waited until MV and BV were done. The only problem was that BV couldn't clock out until 5:30pm. Oh well. I called Master and let Him know that I was running behind because of such.

I got home around 6pm and immediately hopped in our car to run down to Wendy's to grab dinner. When I got home we ate and watched an episode of Torchwood. After that I started to crash. I had stayed up late last night, got up at 6am and my manic mode was wearing off rather quickly. So Master allowed me to go to the bedroom and nap. He woke me up a little after 9:30pm. So now we have the rest of the evening to spend time together.

Okay, on to the family portion of this post.

Tomorrow Master is going to see His half-brother for the first time in over 10 years. He lost touch with His half-brother and half-sister when He stopped talking to their/His father. Now that Master and His father are back on good terms He is slowly but surely getting back in touch with the rest of that side of the family. Master and I had already seen His three half-sisters. Now it is time for the half-brother. Master is not the least bit nervous. I am a little bit. I want Master's family to like me, but I don't want to be fake about it. I want to be myself and I will be.

His mother says she likes me, but I know deep down she only likes certain qualities I have but not myself as a whole. His father thinks I'm great. He calls me a "firecracker". *giggles* His three half-sisters like me. So I am hoping that His half-brother and his wife do as well.

I told Master as such and He said He isn't worried about it because it's not like anyone in His family can change His mind about me. Well I know that, obviously. But still. My family, all of them, love Master. They think He's great. So I would like at least one side of His family to like me just as much. On His mother's side it's just Him and His mother. But His father's side of the family is huge. It's like they can't stop reproducing. I think they are trying to take over the world. His father alone has five children over the course of three marriages. His half-brother is going on his second child and it sounds that at least the wife wants more.

So tomorrow should prove to be interesting to say the least.

A Great Friday

Today Master picked me up from work so we could meet up with His father for lunch. Lunch with my father-in-law is not just a quick sit down and chat. It's at least two hours long. But that's not a bad thing, cause we always have a great time. It's the first time in a while that I've been able to go with Master when He sees His father. My father-in-law and I get along really well. A lot better than my mother-in-law and I get along.

After we were done eating and talking we all said goodbye and headed our separate ways. Master and I ran some errands and got some things accomplished. When we got home I started looking at cars. We can't afford a big car payment, but we also don't want a car with a lot of miles on it. So we're looking for deals right now. We called the last place we bought a car because we liked them, but they don't really have what we're looking for right now. So yeah.. back to searching. I like window shopping for cars though, as odd as that may sound. Master pretty much leaves that in my hands.

He forbids any red cars and other than that doesn't really care. His basic questions are: "Does it run?", "Does it have a lot of miles?", "Can we afford it?".

He leaves the "negotiating" part to me as well. Well, until the salesman tries to walk all over me because I'm a woman. Then He gets pissed off and steps in.. *giggles* It's like He's my bodyguard. Which is pretty awesome.

So I think tonight Master and I are just going to relax and I'll window shop for cars again.

Oh! By the way, I'm on my 3rd day of no cigarettes and Master had His last one yesterday. :-D Yay us!