We ended up talking about BC. Yeah, I know. We can't judge him.. etc.. so on... blah blah blah. And we don't. We just don't always understand where the man is coming from and so we sometimes discuss it. Last night was one of those times. Neither of us can wrap our heads around what the hell is going on in that brain of his.
We can't always get what we want. A lot of people don't find their perfect someone. But in this situation, if you aren't happy with your sex life and you're on totally opposite ends of what you find to be a turn on... Well I just don't see how that works in the long run.
I know if didn't in my past relationships. It didn't in Master's past relationships either. When there are problems in the bedroom they follow you down the hall. Call it sexual frustration if you want, but it always bleeds into the rest of the relationship.
And as we were running through the conversation we eventually turned to our own relationship. It's interesting how we mesh on everything. If you take a couple of musical differences and tastes in a couple particular movies... we're right on point. It may sounds too good to be true, but it is. There are a handful of bands I like that He doesn't and it's true the other way around. And there are a handful of movies the same way. Other than that... point for point we match each other across the board.
It's also kind of odd how our kinks kind of range all over the place. It seems that in a lot of dynamics there are very specific things that the couple does and they stick to it. Master and I have dabbled in a lot of things. Some worked, some didn't, and some we just touch base on every now and then. There are also a few things that we did and enjoyed for a while but don't do anymore.
From what I've read, seen, and heard of that is kind of rare. Especially since we continued to dabble over the years, after we figured our dynamic out.
We are both extremely lucky to have found one another. It's a one in a trillion chance and yet here we are. Happily married. Blissfully in love. Very much in lust. Even after ten years. And I don't see it ever changing.
We evolve. Our marriage evolves. Our dynamic evolves. And it all seems very natural. It's not like we set out to change it up or keep it spicy. It just happens. We evolve into whatever it happens to be quite naturally. And it's all at the same time. There have been instances where one of us was more interested in something more than the other, but it always end up agreeing.
We have grown in so many different ways over the past decade. And it hasn't stopped.
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